#22 - The Ultimate Imposter Syndrome Test (and How to Overcome it)
“I have this constant fear that I’m a fraud and I’m going to be found out” – Michelle Pfiffer, 2017.
Imposter syndrome is real and it doesn’t go away the more successful you get.
So how do you overcome it NOW so it doesn’t continue to bring negativity into your life and your biz as you become more successful?
Today you’ll learn the exact 5 steps after we first ensure you know what it is and how to identify if you have it.
what is imposter syndrome?
The imposter syndrome is a psychological term referring to a pattern of behavior where people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud.
And the most important thing to remember is that this this misperception of our own power inhibits us—both on and off the job.
how do you know if you have imposter syndrome?
These thoughts and feelings plague all people, successful people, men and women of all ages, races, and orientations. This pervasive negativity can grow if you don’t get it under control, though.
It feels like: not feeling good enough, anxiety, feelings of inadequacy
It sounds like: these thoughts in your head = doubts about your thoughts, abilities, achievements and accomplishments, negative self-talk, dwelling on past mistakes
It looks like:
Kate Winslet – “Over the years, the stakes have become higher for me. Sometimes I wake up in the morning before going off to a shoot, and I think, I can’t do this. I’m a fraud,’”
Natalie Portman – “I felt like there had been some mistake, that I wasn’t smart enough to be in this company, and that every time I opened my mouth I would have to prove that I wasn’t just a dumb actress.”
Emma Watson – “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, ‘Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved,’”
how to overcome imposter syndrome
People sabotage when they get the result but they didn’t change their identity/belief.
So the best way to overcome it is to hit it at it’s core.
1 – change your belief about failure.
It’s not the end of your journey, it’s just a bend in the road. A bend that shifts and molds you into reaching a higher, better destination that you never would have dreamed of before.
2 – BELIEVE first to have won.
You must first believe it is possible for you to reach that high standard.
Then release yourself from being the “complete expert”. You don’t have to know everything and be perfect to be an expert.
You just don’t and it’s unreasonable to put pressure on yourself to be perfect and better than others at everything.
Allow yourself room to grow and learn from other people.
3 – Just keep speaking and sharing YOUR VOICE and YOUR MESSAGE.
“Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down, and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end. And the speaking will get easier and easier.’
4 – Stop playing comparison.
Most people with this syndrome are ambitious, high achievers. So those you are comparing yourself to are also ambitous. Just stop and find your own je ne sais quoi.
5. Pass some time reconnecting with in-person relationships.
Reconnect with people who allow you to just be you and don’t expect you to be some sort of super human.
imposter syndrome treatment
What if you’re not qualified ..
- to help
- to make a difference
- that people will pay me for
What if you’re not qualified to be a parent? “They don’t deserve this” ….
There is no more qualified person than the one they can trust who has a heart willing to help.
Listen to your inner voice and the inner goodness within you!
Work on your mindset more than you look for a drug.
Work more on becoming the person you want to be, with grace for yourself along the way.
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